Moving is a major change for most of us.  It’s physically exhausting, often emotional even if it’s your choice to move, and it has financial implications.  For older adults, moving can be an even greater challenge and their resistance to moving can be strong.  Unfortunately too many older adults delay their move, often until it becomes too late, and there are few options available.  Some of their resistors to moving are:

  1. I don’t want to be a burden.  This can be translated to mean – who can I trust to help me with this move?   There are services in most communities that assist with de-cluttering and relocations.   Realtors will know of these service providers as will most home care agencies.
  2. I feel safe here.   The reality is that familiarity with the community and our neighbours adds to our sense of safety.  Moving to the unknown will heighten sensitivity about personal safety.  This can be addressed best by researching the neighbourhood before moving.   Talk to people who live in that area and get their perspective.
  3. I don’t have the money to move.  It’s important to have a realistic understanding of your financial picture.  The sale commission, legal costs and moving expenses can take a big bite out of your home equity but it’s not a reason to remain in your home if you are experiencing other issues that suggest it’s time to move.  Have a financial plan done that gives you an idea of where your assets are, the expenses of liquidating some of them, and the money remaining that suggests the types of living options you have available to you.
  4. Our family memories are here.  Homes trigger memories but a video of the home could be enough to help retain those memories.  Look at electronic means of capturing those spaces that are important to you.  Create a memory book and share it with your family.  That book will likely become more valuable to them than the bricks and mortar you are living in because the family can share it even from a distance.
  5. What do I do with all my stuff?  We are a society of packrats.  If you haven’t used something in the past year, you are unlikely to require it again.  Don’t save things for your relatives.  Provide them with some lead time to get the stuff from your house and when the time has expired, get rid of the items.  Living uncluttered can be very uplifting, less expensive (requires less space and insurance) and safer (reducing tripping and lifting hazards).

More resistors to moving in tomorrow’s blog.